The Female Gaze Sells

“I could never make money doing what you do, AJ.”

“She only makes money because of her tits.”

“I would have that job too, if I could.”

Comments like these on my TikTok and Instagram videos always rub me in a weird way. They’re usually framed as insults or excuses, but they make me wonder how many men actually want to get into the OnlyFans industry and feel that they are held back by their sex.

From the perspective of a woman, I find that the options for porn are extremely limited, and I can almost never find porn that is made with the intention of women’s consumption. It is extremely rare that women are thought to be sexual in the way that they might want to utilize pornographic content to actually fulfill their sexual desires. Most women are just as sexual as most men are, yet we are rarely thought of that way in the mainstream porn industry.

If you think of a man in the porn industry, you usually think of big organizations. The roles that those men play are often management roles, technical and creative roles in pornographic films, and sometimes acting in mainstream porn that you may find on big websites. However, most of this content is not made with women in mind.

The only time I can remember consuming porn that truly felt like it was made for me was through books; usually by women, for women. Men just don’t tend to create for the pleasure of women. The market is incredibly unsaturated, and believe me, most of the women I know are itchy for content like this.

There are a handful of men who have figured out the formula, and their comment sections are worse than mine in terms of objectification. So yes, if you’ve seen the viral comment going around “I am no better than a man”  it’s true. We are truly no better than you when it comes to controlling our sexual urges; we might just be less verbal about it.

I’ve noticed that the men I follow on OnlyFans focus on a woman’s pleasure. They do things like talk dirty to the camera, put the viewer in compromising positions, and still walk the fine line between respect and vulgarity. It’s a tricky line to walk, but if you can do it well, you’ll gain followers with just your voice. No need to post thirst traps in the traditional sense. If you can do it right, your voice alone will do. Confidence will get you a long way.

My personal favourite male content creator on OnlyFans is @repairman67. Watching his videos gives a good idea of what I’m talking about. A few more examples of people who have the formula down are @kane.wolfe and @shallelujah on TikTok.

What these three have in common is a touch of femininity. None of them are toxically masculine, which makes the viewer feel safe. They seduce their audience not just sexually, but emotionally as well, allowing the parasocial relationship to deepen. That’s how women tend to connect sexually, you have to make her feel good emotionally too. That’s the key.

So yes, of course men can do OnlyFans and make a lot of money doing it. However, I wouldn’t recommend quitting your day job just yet. You should be completely sure that this is something you believe could be sustainable for the foreseeable future. Ask yourself: “Do I have a following that has voiced interest in this? Do I feel comfortable in my own skin? Will my friends and family be supportive, and if not, am I willing to lose those people? Would I be okay working in this industry long-term, knowing it could burn professional bridges in the future?”

I love my job, but this is probably it for me, unless I open my own business down the line, which I probably will. For now, it’s fulfilling, financially stable, and I truly couldn’t imagine a better fit for me.

So yes, men, go forth. Make porn. But understand who you’re making it for.